New Year, New Shoes

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In my eyes there isn’t a better way to start off the New Year than with your best foot forward and why not do it with a positive attitude and a fabulous pair of new shoes? The turn of a New Year has always been a time for looking back to the past, and more importantly, looking forward to the coming year. It’s a time to reflect on the past year, figure out what we can change to fulfill our New Year’s needs and implement the changes. We make up New Year’s resolutions to achieve change by setting goals, but in the end how long do any of us stick to our New Year’s resolutions?

This year I decided that I would set a goal that was actually realistic and simple enough to stick with it forever. My resolution was to be punctual everywhere, simple enough right?  Well the first day back to work after the New Year holiday the struggle began. Running to the kitchen with one high heel on one foot (of course a black platform stiletto) and the other in my hand, trying to balance pouring a cup of coffee while making sure I did not spill any on my Max Mara jacket that was on my arm or my brand new Michael Kors purse barely in my hand. As I was half way out the door, with both shoes on, I couldn’t find my keys and spent 15 minutes frantically looking for them. I started out with a fabulous pair of new shoes and the attempt to put my best foot forward, but in the end I was just the same woman in a fabulous new pair of shoes.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my stilettos but am I asking too much of myself? On a daily basis I get the question “How do I manage to juggle and successfully maintain a life that consists of having a career as a Medical Case Manager, serving tables part-time, attending graduate school, being in a relationship of seven years, and still maintaining a circle of friends? First I can not take credit for all of it because without an amazing support system of co-workers, loving boyfriend, incredible family, and the best friends I could ask for I wouldn’t make it a single day.

It never really dawned on me until just the other day; I have always used a strategy to maintain my life but never gave it that much thought.  Whenever I have wanted to make a change and accomplish something, I have always started by prioritizing what it is I want to accomplish and making sure that I am doing it for myself and not someone else.  See it’s all about the right shoes, and the right attitude. That one formula will make all the difference in your world. I positively focus on each day to make sure each and every day counts.  If I can make it through the day then I can get to the week, the month, and then the year. When I set a long-term goal, the key is to always have a plan and take it one day at a time, because as we all know Manolo Blahnik did not build a reputation for fabulous shoes in one day. I set long terms goals with the idea that to get there I need to make equal amount of attempts each and every day. Committing myself to a specific amount of effort each day was the key for me, no more no less.

However, one has to be flexible and remember that this is real life and problems can arise. No one is perfect but what happens if I falter? As the old saying goes, if you fall down one step, don’t throw yourself down the whole staircase. If one day you break your stiletto’s heel and everything completely blows up in your makeup bag, you simply start over. Only focus on getting through one day.

I did have a hiccup on my first day back to work but I took it just as that and didn’t let it discourage me. New Year’s resolutions are hard to stick to but if we remember to take them one day at a time, the battle can be won more easily. If you fall get back up, wipe off the running mascara and keep in mind that tomorrow is another day that can be conquered in a fabulous new pair of shoes!

Julia Murphy is the Program Development Director at Compass Community Center. She can be reached at